Because of the social changes over the last two decades, a bride may not be what be sure what kind of gown is appropriate for her wedding. Can she wear a long gown when she is marrying for the first time at age 30 or 40? Is white appropriate for a second marriage?

Here are some basic rules in bridal etiquette to help a prospective bride make her choice.  Any bride may wear a long white gown . . . no matter how many times she's walked down the aisle and no matter what her age. A bride should wear a veil and train only for her first marriage because they symbolically represent youth and innocence.

An older first marriage or second marriage bride, might select one of the lovely lace "informal bridals" currently popular in long or tea lengths. Pair it with a beautiful bridal hat in place of a billowy veil. A bride in her 30s or 40s or older might opt for a three-piece wedding suit, a knee length cocktail dress, or a floor length, strapless gown in a flowing fabric. All are appropriate, if the style is suited to the individual and to the wedding image she has chosen.

Wedding gown styles for all ages and degrees of formality range from the extravagantly beaded gown to the simple suit. Victorian styles continue to be very popular for traditional wedding dresses because the high necklines and inset sleeves create flattering proportions.

However, some styles may be more appropriate than others for your figure, your age, and your situation.

Shop with a trusted friend or relative; someone who will honestly help you choose the best style for your figure. And heed the advice of your bridal consultant as to which style and train length are most appropriate for the type of wedding you envision.

Today's bride can have beautiful laces, taffetas, satins, velvets and organzas like her mother or grandmother wore, but thanks to advancements in man-made fiber technology they resist wrinkling, are easier to clean, and are less likely to yellow over the years.

Your bridal milliner or shop consultant will advise you on the appropriate headpiece or hat and veil to best complement your gown, and sit comfortably with your hair style.

White and ivory are the most popular wedding gown colors; but many designers offer pale pink, blue, and peach styles as well. The style, length, and colors of the attendants' attire should complement the bride's gown and help carry out her wedding theme. Your bridal shop consultant is adept at matching styles. Attendants' and mothers' gowns should never be longer than that of the bride.

After the gowns are ordered and before the first fittings, you and your attendants will need to purchase the appropriated undergarments to make sure you'll look your best on that special day. Bridal shoes complete and before the first fitting Bridal shoes complete your ensemble.

When shopping for undergarments and shoes, the best advice is: comfort over price!